From Unhappy Worker to Coaching Student

By Mike Howard

A Brief History of Me Before "The Big Decision"
Written 1st Jan 2007

Back in the 1990's, I was coping through life fitting windows and conservatories. I was good at it, but there was a small snag. I hated it. Purely by accident though I found myself on a counselling course. How you can manage that by accident may not appear to make a lot of sense, but when the love of my life said, "You should do that course", I sort of accepted what she was saying. After all, She knew me a lot better than I knew myself at that point in my life.
That was the start of it. A few years later, and there I was, The proud owner of a diploma in therapeutic counselling. Lots of volunteering later, including Samaritans, Community Mediation, and a long stint at the local mental health free counselling service, I found myself thinking, "isn't it about time I used some of this for my benefit?".

Searching for jobs in the counselling world isn't very easy when all I had on the CV was a bit of volunteering, and 20 years of fitting windows. This is where the love of my life came into her own again. By this time she was my wife. (I must congratulate on my choice of company at this point as she seemed to make everything happen for me). She saw a job in the local paper. Go on she said, "You'd be good at that", "Are you sure I said". Any way, to cut a long story short, I then found my self in the world of Supported Housing. This is where I could use my new found skills while helping homeless young people to get back on their feet. It's a funny job is supported housing, especially if, like me, you have tendency for free thinking. The training and experience I received there were second to none, but after 4 years I had to leave on the account that I was slowly going mad with the stress of the job. This stress was mainly caused by a sense of not being able to do anything. The working day it's self was mainly spent waiting for something to happen. If something did happen, and a decision had to be made, then it better be "The Right One". It really was a risky business. The residents were fine, It was the management that scared me.It was then I discovered my new path of Floating Support. This was a complete different ball game. Often overloaded with work, but with a freedom to be able to think outside the box. I was now pretty well contented with my lot, and at this point, just prior to new years eve, I'm still loving the work and the company. 

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By Tony Li on 12 March 2007 at 21:50

Hi Mike

Can I ask you one question: if you weren't going out with your girlfriend/wife at the time, do you think you would have made the change?

I only ask because I'm single and I often feel that if I had someone there to support me this whole process would be a lot easier.


By Selina Barker on 13 March 2007 at 11:41

Tony, it's tough whether you're single or not and actually, I was living with a man I loved dearly when I began my careershift and I took a lot of my anxieties out on him with unhappy results. So, having someone there doesn't necessarily make it easier. Take a look at my last blog - I've discovered the importance of generating your own happiness and having a firm base to grow from and that includes creating a team of supporters around you made up of friends and family.


By Mike Howard on 15 March 2007 at 16:19

Hi Tony. Nice question. It made me think about about what I've needed to push me forward.

As Selina says, it can be tough whether your single or not. I usually find that although support is great, it can and, has resulted in me being deflated when comments on reality start to come my way.

I am a bit of a dreamer, and I need a grounding influence around me. It just so happens that Emma provides this. My Mother on the other hand is just down right negative. This negative element is also a big part of me. so I don't need more of it thankyou very much.

So my point is, I've needed to know what I want, based on MY needs, and surrounded MYSELF with the support that will work for ME. This has come from many different people, not just my wife.

One more comment. In my Career Shift, I have to consider a child and wife. You don't have to.


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