Tessa isn't miserable at work, but she still wants more from life. Trouble is, her excitement about each new idea fizzles out in a short period of time. Is she coming up with all the wrong ideas, or is she just a lost cause?
What's your career history and current job?
I've always bounced around in the web design sector.
I started out as an intern at a magazine, and then went into graphic design with a small start-up. Now I'm the deputy online editor for a well-known lifestyle blog. We run features on things like cooking, interiors and DIY living, and I manage the look and feel of the site.
How do you feel about your work?
I enjoy it. I do.
The people I work with are great, I often wake up excited to go to the office in the mornings, and there are some days I finish work buzzing.
But I can feel this creeping disillusionment and boredom setting in, which is very familiar to me, and it's scary.
I think I could be doing more with my life, and that's what's frustrating me right now. I think I could be making a bigger impact in a different industry, or that I should be working in a different environment or something…
Something's not right, and I want to catch it and do something about it before I reach a point where I'm miserable again.
What would you like to be doing instead?
So many things!
I'm interested in herbal medicine, nutrition, yoga, well-being, psychology, productivity, fine art… I'd love to do public speaking, be 'the face' of a business. I’d love to be in research and academics. I want to do outdoor pursuits, be working outdoors and making things with my hands…
I don't have a job title in mind or a specific career path, but I'm pretty clear about the areas I want to be moving in.
What's the biggest obstacle in your way?
With all these different interests, I don't know which way to go.
I throw myself fully into ideas once I decide to take them on, and immerse myself completely in them. Then, maybe a month later, maybe 6 months later, I get bored and want something different.
A few years ago I started a business which took off quickly; then I lost interest and let it drop. Then I started a nutrition course, which I finished, but once I'd done it, I felt like I'd 'done it', and didn't take it any further. I went to meet-ups with personal development groups, and loved it, but eventually it just turned into hangouts rather than anything that could turn into a career, so I let that slide too. It's constant, and it's driving me mad.
I don't want a portfolio career – I know I'm not self-motivated and organised enough to juggle several things at once – so I feel like I'm this weird personality type who's excited about lots of different things but doesn't have the stamina to follow through.
Is it because none of them are the right thing for me? Maybe I'm giving up on ideas because they're all wrong? Or am I just flaky and unreliable? It's reaching the point where I'm losing hope. I want a career where I can climb high, make a real impact and be known for what I do, but when the inevitable boredom kicks in, every single time, I doubt I'll ever get to that point.
Am I a lost cause?
Can you help Tessa?
- Have you been in the same situation or are you in the same boat right now?
- Is she, as she says, flaky and unreliable? Or has she just not found the right thing yet?
- Do you know anyone she could talk to?
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